A loud knock...

Hi ,


I used to get 'n' number of forward mails...But some mails are too good that I cant even think of deleting it...This is one among my favorite ones which made me nod my head to each and every single word...

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In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question:

'What kind of man are you looking for?'

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, 'Do you really want to know?'

Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes.



She began to expound, ' As a woman in this day & age,
I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself?

I pay my own bills.
I take care of my household without the help of any man...
or woman for that matter.

I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?'

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, ' I am not referring to money.
I need something more.
I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.

She said, 'I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man.

I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.

I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden.

I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.

I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.

I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.

I need someone whom I can respect... In order to be submissive, I must respect him.

I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy.

And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me.
He will recognize himself in me.
Hey may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me.
God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself.

When she finished her spill, she looked at him.

He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, 'You are asking a lot.

She replied, "I'm worth a lot".
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Today, I heard some of my colleagues discussing and sharing their real experience on dowry system ...I really felt pity for those girls and existing social norms that force families to give money for their daughter's wedding...

We usually tend to associate these kind of money trade as an issue concerning the lower class and lower middle class people...I don't want to discuss there stand... many a times they do that because of the lack of options and the social frame work which turned them as pure victims...

But, how can we accept the attitude of financially well settled people who consider dowry as a status symbol??
Once ,one of my relative boasted proudly that they have given 40 lakhs as dowry for their daughter's wedding to get a doctor as her husband...and asked my parents how much they will give for my groom..I was so irritated and shocked to hear that...I felt like shouting at him for considering such a social injustice as a status symbol..before I could say anything,my dad said ,"I won't give anyone money for marrying my daughter, I am damn sure that she is not that worthless that I have to pay a guy money to take her"...I felt so proud of my parents and later we all had a big time laugh mocking the pathetic look on that joker's face and how he winded up the conversation and left quickly...

This rotten system will ends only when the family start respecting their daughter's identity ....and when the society stop considering marriage as a relationship to make quick money!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!